When you spend time with your spouse does the phone keep beeping with that “important” text?
I know that our phones are our lifeline, and it’s hard to part ways even for an hour, but the lifeline for your marriage is uninterrupted quality
time.
When you let these devices take center stage, it can damage the intimate connection you know you want to have.
Instead, try to schedule uninterrupted alone time with your spouse on a regular basis. Make a habit of shutting out the world for a brief time each day
to reconnect with the one you love.
There’s nothing more annoying than having your spouse tell you what you’re thinking.
It’s bound to cause some friction.
But there’s
an easy cure. It just takes tweaking your message a little and using more “I” statements.
For example, you emphatically proclaiming to your spouse:
“You never liked my mother!” (This is headed for WW 3).
Instead, try to get into the habit of
describing the particular situation and just saying what you’re really feeling:
”Last night when you made that comment about my mother’s weight, I felt angry and a little hurt.”
Same content - much better presentation.
- Stop trying to fix the problem.
