For many people January is somewhat of a letdown. The holidays are over, it's cold outside, and we're usually left with a few extra pounds from overdoing it in December.

But to me the new year means a new beginning, a fresh start, and as Oprah Winfrey cheers  - "a new year and another chance for us to get it right.”

You have a golden opportunity in this brand new year to bring a spirit of positive change into your marriage. Even in these barren days of winter a new perspective can begin to blossom. 

Here are 3 steps you can take right now to make the New Year's Resolution that really counts:

• Begin to focus on what you love about your spouse. Make a list to remind yourself. Read it often and don't forget to share these precious insights with the special person who inspires this affection. 

• Be kind. This quote says it all. So simple, yet so powerful!

•  Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Practice seeing things from your spouse's "perspective" instead of your own. You'd be surprised how much you can learn when you adopt an attitude of curiosity rather than judgment.              ​​